Embracing Menopause — My Freedom Phase

As a follow-up to my previous post, “My Journey Through Menopause,” I want to share some practical steps I took to embrace menopause—my freedom phase.

There’s not much point in listing every single thing I did because my approach is all about self-responsibility and discernment.

My changes actually began around the same time as the Covid lockdown. It was divine timing—I was forced to stop working. Back then, I was a full-time sports massage therapist, and the physical work was taking a toll on my joints. I had aches, pains, and even vertigo, not knowing these could be signs of hormonal changes. Lockdown forced me to rest and rethink my life. I realised I couldn’t sustainably keep working as a sports massage therapist, so I retrained in facial acupuncture.

I know it’s not easy to make changes unless something forces you to. Lockdown gave me the space to question the program I’d been running on and start adjusting my routines.

1. Declutter

I’ve always been sentimental and kept more than I needed. With my kids gone, there was no reason to hang on to so much stuff, but I struggled to let go. Your space reflects your mind, and I needed to clear some mental and physical space.

A friend offered to help declutter my house—and magically cleared every corner in a week. She’s so talented she makes Marie Kondo look like an amateur. Seeing all the stuff I’d accumulated over the years made me realise how heavy my attachments were. Letting it go was painful but worth it—I felt liberated and ready for this new phase of life.

2. Adjust Expectations

I used to juggle three jobs, raise my kids, and run four times a week. That’s no longer possible—or even something I want to do.

Instead of forcing what I can’t do, I focus on what I can do better because of my age experiences in life. I communicate more patiently, which makes me a better counsellor, I appreciate simple pleasures. And as a bonus,  I feel physically warmer ( I used to feel cold all the time) Thanks to the hormonal changes!

It’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to rest. Adjusting expectations to match who you are now is an act of self-compassion.

3. Become a Conscious Consumer

There’s so much information about diets, yet we still often eat in ways that don’t suit us. I’ve realised it’s not just about food—I also need to choose carefully what information I consume.

I used to love sushi and overcomplicated flavours, but my body started rejecting it. At first, I felt sad, almost like I was betraying my culture. But my body was guiding me toward simpler, living foods.

The more I listened, the clearer I became. I could tell what nourished me and what drained me, sometimes just by looking. I still crave junk food occasionally, usually when my energy is off balance. I rarely drink alcohol now, since it affects my sleep.

I don’t neatly fit into any categories as vegetarian or vegan. I’m a conscious eater, choosing what my body and mind need each meal—and being mindful about the information I let in.

In the end, your body knows best.

4. Devotion to Self

I started spending more time with myself, creating rituals to nurture my body and spirit. These change over time, but here’s what I do:

Meditation: Any activity where I can fully focus and lose myself counts—walking, movement, or traditional meditation. I use it to connect with my higher self or communicate with my body.

Qigong: Gentle movement to support energy flow and balance, helping me feel grounded and connected to my body.

Journaling: Writing helps me clear my mind. I keep a dream journal too when I want to meditate on it later.

This phase of freedom feels incredibly precious and meaningful to me. For the first time, I find myself truly prioritizing my own well-being, living consciously, and moving through life without the weight of others’ expectations. It’s a freedom in every sense!

Are you ready to step into your own freedom and embrace this new chapter with ease and joy?

Let’s begin the journey together.

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